Safety Isn’t What You Think It Is

IMG_1299.JPG“Safety is knowing that whatever comes is for your highest good.” – Karey Thorne

This was a quote from one of my spiritual teachers this past weekend during a workshop I attended. It perfectly captures what I have been increasingly feeling the past couple of months. Whatever is currently happening in your life, whether good or bad, is ultimately for your highest good.

Safety isn’t what we think it is. We think safety is a relationship, or perfect health, or the right job, enough money in our bank accounts, and an environment devoid of violence. And while I wish for all of those things for both myself and for you, I am realizing there is a deeper kind of safety, a more permanent safety that comes from our connection to Soul.

When we base our sense of safety on an external source, whether it be other people or things, we are constantly living in a state of fear. Relationships and jobs can always end. People can always leave. Money can come and go. When we need external things to feel secure, we have to constantly try and make sure those things are always present. We want the relationship to continue, the job to stay the same, and our bank accounts to reflect a certain number. And there is nothing wrong with that desire. We only run into trouble when we need our external environment to go unchanged so we can feel ok.

The reality of this world, and of our Souls, is that we are constantly changing. Change is the one guarantee in life. Sometimes change feels great, sometimes not so great.

I have just emerged from a five year period of incredible change. I’ve moved eight times, had many relationships, saw many relationships end, had many job changes, had health challenges, nearly lost a parent, and saw several people close to me pass away. It has been a very challenging five years. But what I have found, is that the more my external environment has been shaken and rocked, the more I have been forced to find safety inside. When my external environment has let me down or disappointed me, I have been forced to move into a sense of stability based on myself and my trust in my life. Luckily (though not always pleasantly), I have had to let go of trying to control what was happening in my life.

I’ve had to move from fear about the future, to relishing what is happening in this moment, right now. I can now feel a sense of safety in my body that is independent of my circumstances. I am now clearly aware that whatever comes is going to be good for me. It may not feel good at the time, but in the end, I am a better, stronger, and ultimately, happier person as a result of both the gifts and challenges life brings. These past five years have shown me that as long as you use your life to uplift yourself, life will always be good. You will always come out on top – wiser, happier, and more stable inside.

As life goes on, we have a choice. We can build on that sense of internal safety, or to try and control our lives more and more. Many of us have learned that as we try and control more, life just keeps shaking us until we eventually surrender. And I will tell you, when we do eventually give in and surrender to where life wants to take us, it feels so damn good. When we learn to ride the surfboard instead of control the waves, we get to actually have some fun.

The Blessing I Use Before Sessions

IMG_2718This is a version of the blessing I use when starting sessions with clients. It is a great one to use before beginning any spiritual or psychological work. I tell my clients to use what words work for them. If “God” or “Christ” aren’t your thing, it isn’t a problem. Just replace those terms with whatever fits.

A Blessing of Alignment with God

Father-Mother God, we ask right now for the presence of the Light of the Holy Spirit and the Christ to surround, fill, and protect each one of us, so that whatever takes place during this process will be for the highest good of all concerned.

And for anything that is taken from us at this time, we ask that something of equal or greater value be put in its place.

We would also ask for a special blessing that through this process of aligning ourselves with the highest good, we may open to a new awareness of our divinity and our greatest trusting of God’s love for us.

– John-Morton

Letter to an Old Soul

Dear Old Soul,

Years ago, I remember listening to a channeling by Lee Carroll, who bIMG_2227.JPGrings forth the being called “Kryon.” I don’t remember the subject of the channeling, but I do remember Kryon saying that old souls tend to have low self-esteem. He explained that because we have been embodied hundreds or thousands of times, we have seen everything. Through our experiences, we have gained wisdom, which we have innocently tried to share with others. However, much of the time, the planet has not been ready for our wisdom. This has led to some unpleasant experiences such as being made fun of, criticized, condemned, jailed, and even killed in past lifetimes.

We have been the minority for a very long time.

As a result, we’ve adopted an element of hesitation, shyness, or a reluctance to really share what we know. And as old souls, we know. We know things deep in our bellies and in our very bones. We know that power, darkness, energy stealing, domination, and violence never get us where we really want to go. We’ve tried it all before, and we have learned that all of the ways we tried to get power from others never brought us the satisfaction we truly longed for. We know that all we are really looking for is home.

As old souls, we know that the way home is through loving ourselves and others, treating all beings with respect, and taking care of the planet. We know that the way to get where we want to go comes from love and freedom, not power and control. We know that utopia comes from taking care of and nurturing each other, especially the downtrodden and the weak. We know that God (or the Universe of Spirit) is not an angry man with a beard in the sky, but rather, love. Pure, radiant, soft love. We know this deep in our cells.

And yet, we’re reluctant to share what we know. Perhaps we see that the world still needs to learn and grow, and isn’t ready for our wisdom, or is only ready for a small dose of it. Perhaps we are too afraid of having our heads cut off or being burned at the stake to share our truth. Whatever the reason, it is ok.

Dear Old Soul, know that I see you, and I love you. I honor the struggles, hardships, horrors, and difficulties you’ve faced in this lifetime and all previous ones. I see your sensitivity, your wisdom, and your gorgeous heart. I see your beautiful sparkling essence. I see your Spirit and the loving that wants to burst out of every pore. I love you, and I love your ability to love, in spite of everything you have experienced.

Dear Old Soul, you are precious and special. Your wisdom is valuable, even if it goes unappreciated. I appreciate you and all you bring to this world. I know it is hard, at times, to be here. You see the shootings, and the racism, the homophobia, the violence and the poisoning of our water and food. You feel the pain and suffering deep in your belly or in your heart. And yet, Old Soul, I remind you to look deeper. Look deeper into your wisdom. You’ve seen this before. Remember that we are here to wake up. And we are witnessing a planet that is waking up quickly and in a giant burst.

Dear Old Soul, I love all that you are. Take care of yourself, nurture yourself, love yourself. And when you feel ready – when you feel safe enough, or maybe just courageous enough – please feel free to share your wisdom with us. Not everyone will understand it, and that’s ok too. But there are those who will. There are those of us who are ready for you. I see you. I honor you.



What To Do When You Feel Like A Scary Monster

scary monsterI will admit it. The past couple of weeks, I have been a grouchy, irritable monster. Every little thing has set me off, like the volume level of my iphone when it vibrates on the counter, the sound of my boyfriend’s chewing, driver’s who pull out in front of me, mold on the new tortillas I just bought, the rain, the sun, and the overabundance of water in the decaf Americano I ordered at the coffee shop across the street. I haven’t been proud of my actions and have even been a little short with the people around me.

When I used to have irritation-bursts like this, I used to panic. I thought to myself, “What am I doing wrong? Did I not feng shui my house properly? Are my hormones insanely off-kilter? Am I not meditating enough?” When I felt something that seemed different as compared to my usual state of being, I automatically assumed that I had done something wrong or that something was wrong with me.

Our minds are so quick to make what we experience, about us. And most of the time, our minds like to find explanations that somehow involve us having done something wrong. The mind is funny that way. Rarely does the mind think that what we are experiencing is the result of something right that we are doing in our lives. The mind really likes to make us wrong.
In actuality, my two weeks of irritation might have been because an old pattern was clearing out of my energy field, or I was integrating a new level of consciousness. It might have been because a friend of mine was experiencing something distressing, and my energy field was unconsciously helping her work through it. It might have been because my body was detoxing and coming back into balance. My irritation might have been the result of my body doing something right.

The truth is, I have no idea why I was so irritable. None at all. I used to think that being spiritual, and intuitive, meant being able to understand why everything happens. And sometimes, I do get messages about a particular experience. However, what I have realized is that the “why” isn’t always important. Granted, if there are chronic patterns in your life that you can’t seem to shift, understanding why they are there is important so you can move through them. But for things as transient and fickle as moods, trying to understand the “why” can just add more fuel to the fire.

So try this…Next time you find yourself feeling and acting like a scary monster, instead of getting stuck in your head, trying to think your way into understanding what is going on, take a deep breath and let go. Let go of the need to understand it.

You are human and there are myriad energies moving inside of you and through you at any given time. Don’t try to understand them, just let them move.

And of course, my irritable monster mood did shift. I’m back to feeling like “me” in a way that is even deeper than before.

More and more, I am learning I can trust whatever arises.